Anger isn’t a resource to be managed, it should not exist in Life.
Don’t Manage Anger, Eliminate It!
The most common question I get asked by my followers is on managing anger. They have read, heard or studied about ‘anger management’ and wish to overcome anger by managing it. Please realize, only a resource should be managed to optimize it. Anger isn’t a resource to be managed, it should not exist in Life.
There is loads of research to prove how anger immediately and adversely affects health. Anger is bad for the individual, bad for the society and ultimately bad for the world. The only way you can fix anger is through your own consciousness.
Today I shall help you understand anger and how you can eliminate it from life.
When you ask, “What do I do when someone makes me angry”; truth is, you have knowingly or unknowingly given another person the power to control you on an unconscious level, and by which they are able to control your emotions. It means you are dependent on someone else to maintain your state of happiness.
If you are the source of your own happiness and not dependent on others for your state of happiness, no one can make you angry!
If you watch clearly, you already know who will make you angry. So, the problem isn’t with them. Every relationship and experience with another person is nothing but the exact reflection of the self. Still, no one is stupid to be angry without a reason. If you go back and find the source of your anger, you will know, it isn’t the person.
The genuine answer you will get is that you think their behaviour, approach, or their association could spoil your future progress or their presence is affecting your current happiness. It is your thought of the consequences you will face because of the person’s actions or behaviour that make you angry.
In a work scenario, if a job isn’t done as per requirement, it will make you angry. Because this affects the process or the end-result. But can your anger change the situation? 100% no. It will only affect your strength and health. Instead of getting angry, understand this before assigning a job, ‘my job isn’t to doubt the process or the person’.
Sometimes even though you know the end-result you want, practically you know you cannot get the outcome from the person you are associated with, then disassociate with them. Continuing a relationship or association when you do not see the result you want, only makes one live with anger irrespective of meditation or one’s intention not to be angry.
If you cannot avoid the presence of the person who angers you, or you cannot extract the work you want from them, it still isn’t a reason to continue with anger. Give yourself a second chance. Instead, start seeing the end-result you want and feel that what you want must happen exactly the way you want. Now accept the person as part of the process and progress. Bless the person in meditation.
Human beings can be considered machines with emotions that are never under one’s control. To bring emotions under control the way you want, a profound and peaceful link is needed between you and the other atman. When you work with the end-result in mind, Blessing is the only way that brings positive energy to you and the other soul to be in alignment and bring the results you want. Now anger isn’t even a possibility.
Any negative emotion, anger, fear, frustration, disappointment, is absence of happiness. And the state of happiness is absence of anger, fear, disappointment, frustration. One should understand this beautiful and profound truth, happiness is not a source available outside of you, it is inside of you.
It is really difficult to find happiness within oneself, but it is not possible to find happiness anywhere else.
Wishing you a life of peace, success and happiness.
Atmayogi Shri Aasaanji
Aham Brahmasmi !
